Lesley Inglis

Online & Face to Face Therapist. I have worked for Relate, Relationships Scotland the NHS and in Private Practice
I have had wide experience in many different Sexual problems, including Sex addiction/Porn/chat rooms/escorts etc, Love addiction, and I also work with common mental health conditions e.g Anxiety, depression, emotional dysregulation etc.
I help people to recognise the ‘cost’ of negative, destructive behaviours. To stabilise and to understand more themselves better. To use all of this learning to support them to create new, healthy behaviours and to repair their partner relationship – if that is what they want to do.
Sexual addiction is a real condition and partners are hugely impacted if they discover their partner has been viewing or engaging with sexual websites, or live sex. . (Women can also have sexually compulsive behaviours). Both partners usually need help to stabilise enough, in order for them to find their way through this overwhelming situation.
Love addiction is one of my special interests, (Men can have compulsive love problems too). It is an emotionally very painful condition and it can feel like there is no way forward. There is and I am able to help you negotiate your journey towards healthy & liberated connections. This is often life changing my clients tell me. I work with clients struggling with Toxic relationships (often a parent or partner). Again this is an emotionally painful situation and people need to learn to focus on their own life and needs & extricate themselves from whoever is toxic in their life.
I also work with people (and their partners) that are struggling to keep their sexual behaviour within the UK law. This is a situation that is hard for people to face and to be able to ask for help.
I work in a University and deal with many different mental health conditions. I have a special interest is Perfectionism and Procrastination. This can impact on every aspect of life. It is exhausting, seemingly never ending and it’s hard to break the cycle.
Supervision:
I am a Supervisor and work Psychotherapeutically with both students and qualified staff & any employees in a people facing occupations.
People inevitably ask, ‘what is Psychotherapeutic Supervision’? It is largely about using unconscious processes to make meaning of your relationship experiences as a Practitioner, when working with clients & me as your Supervisor.
It is not ‘Counselling’ for Supervisees’, but it is about me being transparent as a Supervisor, open to sharing my sensitivities & Supervisees being encouraged to share their sensitivities. This throws light on the affect we may have on each other and the role each may play in the relationship with Clients & their sensitivities. In a nutshell it offers greater understanding of the relationship dynamics.
With a student/newly qualified Practitioner, a lot of guidance & support is needed. Please remember you are not expected to have all the answers – even as a Senior Practitioner I can’t & don’t have all the answers. Also be reassured that in our work – I am not trying to ‘catch you out’. You will make mistakes, as I have made mistakes. It is in the making of a secure, open reflective Supervisor- Supervisee relationship, that we can relax, be ourselves & use everything as a learning opportunity.
As you progress as a Practitioner, you will become more skilled & confident, bringing more autonomy into your professional relationships.
The relationship changes from a dependant one, to a more collegiate, consultancy, independent one. Whatever your stage of development, we will work on e.g. containment, boundaries, ethical & Professional Practice.
Our work as Practitioner’s can be isolating & lonely & there are few opportunities to talk about our work, or even at times, just to vent frustrations. Individual & group Supervision are two of the confidential situations where it is safe to do so.
I like to hold in mind, ‘how can I help this Supervisee to be a better Counsellor/Therapist’?
I can work with most Theoretical orientations & my speciality is Sexual & Relationship Therapy including Sex and love addictions & I regularly work with Compassion to help people overcome toxic self-criticism & shame.
I can also work with other Clinical groups e.g. Nurses & other people facing roles

Full profile on personal website: http://www.castawaytherapy.com